Beware that there be not a thought in thy wicked heart, saying, The seventh year, the year of release, is at hand; and thine eye be evil against thy poor brother, and thou givest him nought; and he cry unto the LORD against thee, and it be sin unto thee. -Deuteronomy 15:9
Here we see in the above verse an example of an oppressed person pressing charges. That is, when a person is wronged, and he cries out to the Lord, the Lord will then hold the wrong-doer accountable for their sins.
Another example of this is found in oppressing a widow or fatherless child. When they cry to God, He will hold any wrong-doers accountable.
Ye shall not afflict any widow, or fatherless child. If thou afflict them in any wise, and they cry at all unto me, I will surely hear their cry; -Exodus 22:22-23
The miracle of mercy
But even though when we are wronged it’s in our own power to cry unto God—and thereby press charges—there is also a benefit in not pressing charges. There is a reward for turning the other cheek, and choosing to forgive.
Jesus said:
Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloke also. -Matthew 5:38-40
The benefits of forgiveness and mercy
Yes, it would be mildly satisfying to see someone get punished, and get their just desserts: but are we perfect? Don’t we also need mercy in our own lives?
When someone wrongs me, I try to see it as someone handing me a “get out of jail free card.” Only in order to keep it, I have to forgive the person. If I press charges with God, the card is given up. Why not keep it? Why not show mercy to others, and thereby allow God to show you mercy as well?
The Bible states it simply: if you show no mercy to others, you’ll be shown no mercy from God. “For he shall have judgment without mercy, that hath shewed no mercy; and mercy rejoiceth against judgment” (James 2:13).
An example of mercy
When we show mercy to others, and forgive their offenses, not only do we store up mercy and favor for ourselves, but we bless those that have offended us.
Consider Stephen, as he was being marytred:
And he kneeled down, and cried with a loud voice, Lord, lay not this sin to their charge. And when he had said this, he fell asleep. -Acts 7:60
Stephen chose to forgive, even as they were casting stones upon him to kill him. And who did he forgive? Who got the blessing? Among others, it was none other than Saul: later to become the apostle Paul.
And cast him [Stephen] out of the city, and stoned him: and the witnesses laid down their clothes at a young man’s feet, whose name was Saul. -Acts 7:58
And just imagine if Stephen had pressed charges. What if he had instead cried out: “Lord, do not hold this man guiltless, but persecute him until justice is served!” History as we know it would have been changed. For Stephen’s merciful prayer for his persecutors was answered in a mighty way when Saul was on the road to Damascus:
And as he journeyed, he came near Damascus: and suddenly there shined round about him a light from heaven: And he fell to the earth, and heard a voice saying unto him, Saul, Saul, why persecutest thou me? -Acts 9:3-4
And so, from the prayers of a just and godly man, another man was converted, and saved, and made into an apostle and witness for Jesus Christ, and who then went on to write a sizable portion of what is today the New Testament of the Bible.
Deciding to forgive
Just as Stephen chose to forgive, and saw many blessings for it in heaven, we too are faced with these same decisions every day. Showing mercy to others not only strengthens us and protects us from judgment, but it also blesses those whom we forgive: even if we can’t see the immediate effect. (And, in Stephen’s case, he never saw the effect of his dying prayer on earth at all, but it was no less real.)
Consider the parable that Jesus shares with Peter on forgiveness, and examine your own life to see if you live up to God’s standard:
Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven. Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants. And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents. But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made. The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt. But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest. And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt. So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done. Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me: Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee? And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses. -Matthew 18:21-35